Is your relationship in gridlock? Here's how to break the cycle ...

Many couples find themselves stuck in a repetitive cycle: the same stories, the same feelings, and frustration when emotions go unacknowledged.

If this sounds familiar, you're not alone.

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Here are 5 questions to ask yourself and then share with your partner, to help you move forward:

Where are we right now?Take a moment to assess your current relationship: the issues - the communication (or lack of) - the intimacy or lack of) - the understanding (or lack of) - are you heard and seen. 

What are our goals?Set one or two specific aims that you both want to achieve. Talk with maturity in an open conversation without judgement.

What practical steps can we take to improve?Focus on actions you’re both good at to strengthen the relationship and make significant time to hold the space for each other.

How can we track our progress?Journaling each small victory can help you see the positive steps you’re making together: acknowledge the wins and share appreciations. 

Where do we want to be?Keep your ultimate goals in sight as you continue to grow together: 'I want to talk without spiking' or 'I would like to share thoughts without judgement'.

These questions offer a framework to help guide you. The key difference between moving forward or staying stuck often lies in how much you're trying to control the relationship.

Take a step back and give each other the space to be curious and open about what you each want. 

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Sometimes it’s hard to share or explain what we truly need, but real communication can create the connection and closeness you’re both seeking.

Show up for each other, fully.

Don’t let your relationship go from strangers to lovers and back to strangers again. You have a shared history, good times, and the potential to build something even stronger.

Start creating your road map today.